Divorced Fathers

Interesting post on the Family Law Blog at FLIP. In a blog post about Divorce Tourism in English Courts the author makes a very good point about how budget cuts could effect the service someone recieves in the Family Law Courts….

“…how are we going to maintain the excellent standards of service that we have become used to when budgets are being slashed? Judicial time is bound to be at even more of a premium and what legal practitioner’s will have to do is find better ways of resolving disputes so that expensive court proceedings can be avoided. Collaborative family law and mediation are now widely offered by many family lawyers…”

This is an interesting post about how to be a good. It applies just as well if not more so when your a divorced Dad. It’s about making sure your are involved and show them you care and be open to the fact that you will make mistakes just don’t dwell on them to long.

This piece of advice is really important for Divorced Dads.

“…One of the best things a father can do for his children is to respect their mother. If you are married, keep your marriage strong and vital. If you’re not married, it is still important to respect and support the mother of your children. A father and mother who respect each other, and let their children know it, provide a secure environment for them. When children see their parents respecting each other, they are more likely to feel that they are also accepted and respected. ..”

No matter what has gone on between you and their Mum she will always be their Mum and you should disrespect her in front of them no matter how tempting it may be. Be the bigger person and show your children the right path!

The whole article is here:

http://www.nwhealth.edu/healthyU/stayHealthy/men2.html

Found this wonderful resource of free information, advice, tips sheets and videos from Resolution.

The information is here – Resolution divorce advice Centre

“Families come in all shapes and sizes. This week is national family week, and as well as celebrating your own family life it is important to remember those families who are experiencing difficult times. As national family week gets underway, Resolution is launching a new online advice centre with information on the legal aspects of splitting up, as well as advice on parenting apart, sorting out money and arranging child maintenance.”

I found the information via this great blog – http://judithsdivorceblog.blogspot.com

Anyone been on the end of anything like this? Interesting that the Dad is the one not taking time to talk to his daughter typicpal stereotyping of a divorced dads !

Nice article over at “About” full of good sound advice for divorced Dads looking to date again.

“Many dads take a long time to recover before they are ready to date again; and some are ready within a few weeks or months. But when you are ready to start dating and developing relationships again, the dating scene for a divorced dad is loaded with pitfalls….”

The full post is here – http://fatherhood.about.com/cs/divorceddads/a/dating.htm

This is another interesting post on the subject on the loveshack forum

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t62190/

Found a nice article here about how to be a good Dad post divorce

Its all good solid advice and the table listed below is interesting in terms of how often you should see your kids and how many hours you should be seeing them. I would think the levels are the minium you should aim for. Will be interesing when my children start to reach their teenage years my oldest is 10 at the moment. I wonder how often they will want to come and how often they will want to stay. I know when I was that age (yes I can still just about remember) I wanted to spend all the weekends with my mates and not with my folks, although my Mum and Dad weren’t divorced and therefore I had no issues with trying to maintain a relationship with either of them.

Interesting post from the BBC that London is becoming the divorce haven of Europe due to the nature of the divorce settlements being the most generous in Europe

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/8256368.stm

This is a really good short and to the point blog post.

“As a child of divorce (my parents divorced when I was four), I can personally say that divorce can be, or maybe always is, hardest on the kids. It should be a decision of last resort when kids are involved and very clearly the “least bad” of your options in a bad marriage….”

The five rules are all very sensible and practical tips.

http://loveengineer.com/?p=1073

This is an interesting post about staying involved in your childrens lives once your divorced. It makes the valid point that you need to be a positive strong role model for your children and make sure they are aware of how much you care for them.

Full post is here:

http://divorcesource.wordpress.com/2010/02/08/a-warning-for-divorced-parents-with-teens-keep-dads-actively-parenting/

Just found this great new Family Law Blog from thhe solicitors at Family Law in Partnership. Its a good read, getting updated regulary and with great advice on it for free! A great resource I am going to be back to read it again. Good work people.